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     Getting older, we often realize the greater good of events that happened in our life earlier on. Over the years, I have faced a multitude of challenges which required me to be stronger than I ever thought I could be. I learned that people's views can also impact how you see yourself. If you never allow that reflection from others to come into your own self-image, you will be much more independent and more resilient. These challenges affected me by making me feel very self-conscious, it also affected my self-esteem, and my mental health. One example is making friends, one of my weaknesses. When making friends I don't put myself first and I am incredibly naive sometimes. From this hard experience, I have learned to stop forcing relationships and instead let the relationships form on their own time with the same amount of effort from both sides. Another example of challenges is when I got bullied in my early school years.

    This made a very strong impact on me to the point where it's can be daily setbacks. Words from others can make you feel a little less important and cause extreme anxiety and PTSD. With 8 years of being bullied, I realized that I have to be my own person regardless of if others like it or not. It's better to be disliked for who you are than to be liked for being a people pleaser, etc. The constant picking and teasing I experience made me stronger to the point where I can use that to rise above anything. I can use my story to inspire others to come as well as my own family. Though I can't really change my past, I can use it as a learning experience to become better than who I was. Of course, the past may seem embarrassing, but to get through the storm, we have to prepare ourselves for the mess that follows.

    Fear has overruled me for too long and now is the time where I can take complete control of my situation and make it an accomplishment. We don't become better by already living a life that gives things to use simply, but we work hard and know the routine so that we can be experienced and wiser to any obstacle course. Besides, some of the things I get worried about as a teenager, upcoming adult will not matter to me when I am in the real world. The real world is another journey that I will have to discover on my own. So, taking things from the past is very useful to find hope in the future. These things happen to make us do better and become stronger individuals. These years have been hard, but I am sure there is more to come that will make my earlier challenges smaller. It will all pay off so that I can help out others as well as my own journey that is to come in the future. 


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