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18; No Love, No Mercy

     As a little girl I have always thought of the idea of becoming 18 years old. January 7th, 2023, to come and me to finally be released into a mini-Beyonce diva as the date arrives. Here I am now 18, wishing I was starting middle school again and revaluating my life choices and mistakes for the past 17 years. I suggest if you're in middle school, worried about your "crush" which lives up to their original meaning anyway, to sit back and relax and enjoy this blog of me complaining yet telling you to PLEASE LIVE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT AND MAKE YOUR YOUTH USEFUL!  It's so valuable to be able to be pure and not be touched by the cruelty of this world. The world looks at youth as a new prey to feast on. People cannot stand to see others happy and this coming from a girl who still has envy towards the littlest things. Yes, hear me right, 18 and still struggle with my preteen side a lot. That's what happens when you waste your youth about everything people have to say about you. 

    This is the case for boys and girls as they grow into young adults. A lot of people think that self-confidence is sticker. You can put it on and take it off whenever you want, but the thing is you have to really feel that way about yourself. If you pretend to have confidence and still people underestimate you, you can be holding a lot inside. When you have confidence, you need to believe it and hold it tight like my iPad when I sleep at night. No one should ever take your confidence away from you. Having a mindset of dignity and respect for yourself, can solve a lot of problems regarding people and the places which influence your life. I learned that the mind is a powerful organ that can take you were you want to go if you have the right support system in yourself. People can be a little supportive, but the number one support you need to have been yourself. Of course, you may have been told you're average like anyone else when trying to do something you love. I have been told that many times about the many girls who could be better than me in some way or another. I had to look at myself and realize that I may not be as pretty, smart, or talented as many girls, but I am me. I'm rare and that's the sacred of being different. 

    One thing people struggle with in this world is patience. The willingness to wait for what they could have. I feel like if I had patience, I would be more manageable with myself and my time. Learning time management at a young age can help with a lot of anger issues and help you better organize yourself and your life. It may be a little annoying to have to wait but trust me it's worth it. You have to be able to wait for something and work for it in order to bring yourself to that state of mind to want to settle better and not stress out so much. If you can heal through what your inner child or inner self wants, be patient with that and not rush into things you're not comfortable doing. Make yourself feel at home that the world won't bring to you. I realize because I'm 18 now, the world is not going to get any easier, but I have to make it easier for myself by not treating myself like the trash the world wants me to feel. 

    You can't find the answers from people by always asking out of anxiety. People won't provide you the right answers nor will they guide you unless you focus on yourself first. Asking in forums which I have done to the point where I have been criticized by random strangers, will not help you grow unless you do the change and not take people at face value. Some of the best advice comes from hypocrites, so be wary of those around you, so find it inside of yourself to believe what you feel. You're human and mistakes are common, but when you're 18 those mistakes are consequences, and you have to be willing to love yourself to defend your opinion and not let yourself get attacked for being a human. You are still growing flower. 



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